A word to my flist

[cactuswatcher]

I just wanted to say to everyone that although I don't always respond to everyone I do try to look at every entry. Lately particularly, there have been some very sad, very compelling and very wondrous entries from my friends here. Just wanted to let people know that just because I can't think of the right thing to say, does mean I not thinking of you when times for you are tough, times for you are amazing or times for you are just simply living to the next day.

To each of you, be well.

Comments

[masqthephlsphr.livejournal.com]

That can be the toughest thing, knowing what to say to an emotionally compelling entry, especially when the news is sad in some way. You worry you won't say the right thing, so you don't say anything at all. And then you think perhaps you *should* say something to let the person know you care and are thinking of them, but then you're back to finding the right words. I've struggled with this many times.

[cactuswatcher.livejournal.com]

Even with something happy like what Deeva is going through, sometimes anything I can think of to say to her just sounds dumb. I really feel like I've been neglecting her by not saying much, but I read every word.

[masqthephlsphr.livejournal.com]

Yeah, just the other day, she, I and Fresne had lunch and the first words out of my mouth were "Oh, look! You're starting to show!"

I had foot-in-the-mouth as an appetizer to my burrito.

; )

[ann1962]

You are very sweet!!

[ladystarlightsj.livejournal.com]

I know what you mean. Either I start writing and it comes out as a long screed (which I usually delete) or it's "Hugs!". Bleah. I'm trying to get better, because I know that the responses I've gotten during the tough times have really helped.

[wisewoman.livejournal.com]

I'd rather know how you are doing, anyway. Anything new? How's my friend V?

;o)

[shadowkat67.livejournal.com]

I find it's really hard to tell who's reading a post and who's not. Can't go by responses, really, because to be honest? I seldom respond to other people's entries - and don't always respond to them in my own journal. Do read. Just don't have much to say - or if I do, I delete because, it doesn't quite work. Responding like writing is often a mood thing. Sometimes I just want to read.

I think one of the benefits of lj over say email correspondence or letter correspondence or even posts on a discussion board, is responses aren't required.

I'm a lurker, not a writer

[hankat.livejournal.com]

I check my lj all the time and find that everyone has said it all already. Then when it comes to me I can't think of an interesting thing to say. But I always check.

Rufus

[midnightsjane.livejournal.com]

I think most of us are in the same boat. I read my flist, every entry, although sometimes I only skim through. I do try to respond to entries as much as possible, if only to assure my flist that I am paying attention. I sometimes think posting is a real act of faith..we put our thoughts and dreams out there, and believe that our words are heard. If I didn't think anyone was reading my posts, I wonder if I would continue on? I love the interaction, it's what brings me back here every single day.